Kevin Costner’s kids have shaped who he is today.
In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, the actor, 70, reveals the biggest life lesson he has learned as a father to seven children — loving and raising them as their own unique individuals.
“You love them all the same, but they are all different, so you find ways to do that without treating them all the same,” Costner, who continues his longstanding partnership with Green Mountain Coffee Roasters, says. “You’ve got to take into consideration their differences.”
“If you just keep coming at them in a certain way, and you’re not getting through, it’s up to you to change a little bit,” adds the star. “Maybe your messaging, maybe how you do it. You have to adjust to their individuality.”
Costner shares three adult children — Annie, Lily and Joe — with his ex-wife Cindy Silva and son Liam with former partner Bridget Rooney. He is also a dad to teenagers Cayden, Hayes and Grace with ex-wife Christine Baumgartner.
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